A new year brings hope to fulfill our dreams, to make changes for the better, to have a happier and healthier life. Most of these dreams never come true.
I am not going to give you any advice on how you can be richer, healthier and happier in 2019. Instead I am sharing a quote from Supreme Court Chief Justice John Roberts commencement speech back in 2017. He gave the speech at his son’s ninth-grade graduation.
Instead of a motivational “you can do this and good luck” speech he focused on pain and the potential of learning from it. The real life around us!
“From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty.
Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take friends for granted. I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either.
And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you’ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion.
Whether I wish these things or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.”
Very powerful and worth re-reading or listening. We can all benefit from failures and misfortunes in life if we can see the message and learn from it.
Here’s the full video:
Whether you are a parent or not, there is a lot to reflect from this talk. What is the message in your misfortunes?
If you have kids, then let them be kids. Teach them independence, compassion, let them get hurt at times, let them figure out solutions to their problems.
Have a wonderful year!